50 Things You Should Do Before Breaking Up

I've always wanted to write a book.
Had a lot of ideas for books, what will they look like, what's the story in it, how they will excite certain people and inspire some. I've always wanted to publish my so-many-that-I-lost-count poems. But most of the ideas went down, trashed by my yielding focus. Hahah..
Well, before this one idea for a book fall from Everest to the trench of Atlantic, I decided to write it and renew it in my blog.

Title: 50 Things You Should Do Before Breaking Up

Origin of Idea:
Many people fell in love, many cases they will fall in love more than once, and in those cases a lot of relationship begins, and ends. Actually, how many people had only one relationship til the end of his life/bachelorhood (nice)? Bet, only small fraction of people.

Some thought about bad memories looking back at the ending of relationships, some even be obsessed. Now, I saw it in a very different cut, how about this: you and him/her broke up yesterday, and you realize, that you had a plan to take him/her to this awesome restaurant that has this great view and menu. So bad your luck, it will never happened, coz you've broken up. "If only I hadn't waited til his/her next birthday, maybe there won't be any regrets. At least I didn't plan it for nothing, but now it's too late."
Well, this is dr.Solution!! In case you haven't thought about things such as "why didn't I think about taking him/her to do this" or "He/she loves parasailing! Why didn't I take her to ...", this book will provide a list, you can have it as a checklist or just a reference of, what you should do not to regret coz not knowing, before some relationship went bad and ended!

If it's a right thing to do, then there will always be a right time to do it.

Included are time frames and real (or easily made up) occasions where you can do it.
So that you can try it as soon as possible, before things we all maybe doesn't hope for really happens.

Married or not married

Whether or not you end up happily ever after with your couple, if you took these advice and put it in practice, you most probably won't regret it.

"Hey, thanks to doing this I knew in advance that she had a bad case of sea sickness. Not taking her to a breath taking yacht deep sea fishing when we have a family holiday, check."

"Ah, she's allergic to peanut. You may not want to give her rocky road with peanut butter toppings. I did it once in a date and she had anaphylactic shock. I promised her I'll never do it again"

Okay, maybe not as extreme as the latter.

Anyways, let's start the count, shall we?

Adulthood

I drew a face in my childhood
Basically not Robin hood
I had a comic book that seems so cool it's about
adventures and meaningful fights, though me then didn't quite understand
I drew and I drew
coz nobody's calling me
I was free.

Some would say it was lonely
Taking care of the house all alone
moreover if you were less than thirteen
But I find it interesting
coz there's no need in discussing
matters than you'd avoid consciously

Some would say it's sad
turning your back and said good bye to long known friends
or bidding your first love good bye to faraway land
but I already knew how the mix blends
in less than fifteen

what's so good of being an adult,
what's so great about that?
I've through those when I was a child.
And I'm doing just fine.

Seeing your folks semi-annually,
can't seem to grasp your childhood memory
with them it was just a vacation
you'd had once too many
even before high school I had washed my own dishes
and even if allowed I'd washed my own clothes
and iron them it was no fuss

I didn't get this feeling
why people need another phase to call
when you've danced through more than seventeen?
It just won't end the frustration seeing
what they spent for the billing.
Just call it another year
and laugh and hold people you most dear
wouldn't that be enough?

what's so good of being an adult,
what's so great about that?
I've through those when I was a teen.
And I'm doing just fine.

Being in the phase called adult
there are lots of uncool things you can do.
Nasty things you don't need to do but now you're allowed to
legal to drink watch porn and
maybe do other stupid ideas then
And is that why there's a thing called adultery?

why do we need adulthood?
what's so grand about that?
Do the adults feel happier than a child?
It's just a rambling you needn't think too long about
But I think an adult feel loneliness more that a toddler.

It doesn't necessarily mean they can't have more fun laughter
or even have their own toddlers.
Name them John, Stacy, Jean, Roger or Amy.
That's fun, no?


And lastly, does an adult need a hood?

Truth Telling

http://www.uphaa.com/blog/index.php/clean-jokes-2/

That's... entertaining in some sorts..

Hm, although I've had unwanted turn in my life recently, I can't stop thinking how lucky I am.

Feeling a bit lonely though coz not many of my friends react to this situation of mine. But I guess everybody has their own life.
Hm, things went for the worse last night.
I've had a fight with someone I care about.

I talked about making my own decisions and trying to put up my own schedule. I wanted to try to stand on my own feet, thank you for caring me, but would you mind a support and my apology?

That person talked about how childish I am and how rebellious I am compared to 10-12 years ago. Talking about how I disobeyed orders and didn't like to be told what to do anymore.

I wanted to scream this out loud but I can't seem to find it in my heart, let alone my voice, to hurt that person.

I am not who I was 12 years ago. I don't want to be independent to anyone anymore. I still like caring and love, but I'm done being yelled at for something that is not important.

You can yell at me when I'm making a bad decision e.g. planning to bungee jump from Kilimanjaro or sorts, but I don't need anyone yelling at me about hairstyles or shoes that I wear. I appreciate your opinion and concern, but this is my life. I will make my decisions based on your suggestions and mine.

Is it selfish trying to be independent and make your own call at things?
Is it immature trying to arrange your own life?
Is it wrong to tell the truth about things and discussing what's best to do about it?

I didn't find the answer that night. I was taught that if you have problems with someone, you should talk about it, don't keep it inside or you'd have cancer.
I didn't believe the cancer part, obviously. But I believe in talking things through. Staying silent won't solve anything.

I've had great results, no, satisfying results of this practice in my experience at work. A healthy discussion usually leads to a good solution. That's why I always open to discussions when I'm in charge of something and try to make an important decision.

But why that night it didn't work that way?
I ended up feeling worse with a painful solution up ahead.
I guess, some people doesn't get open discussions. They want absolute obedience of order. I guess, I have to accept the consequences of surfacing the truth.
Yes, telling the truth always lead to 1 of the 2 conclusions:
you help someone by hurting them or you hurt someone trying to help them. And often the case, those someone include the truth bearer.

Be careful. Jesus was penalised by the Jews in His time because He spoke the truth.
But, some truth has to be spoken no matter what.

Bittersweet Days

Everything in this world has an upside and a downside
Like waking in the morning.
Like this morning.
I woke up with a steady resolution but my heart waver for a bit.
Sorry, a lot.
Then I recollected about the sins I committed these past few days,
and found even more worries, so I stopped my own thoughts and move.

I forgot my wallet on my way to my destination, came back and went to other appointment I made, only to be troubled by something even more grave.

I made a mistake reading the instructions about bureaucracy and
that either:
a. Cost me a year to waste, but no financial obligation
b. Cost me a year and a financial obligation
c. Cost me a little time to play inside the intestines of bureaucracy and a grave amount of money, but I won't have to waste a year

Those shitty options are all I got left






And after picking C, it happened that my case couldn't be helped, and I've to chose option A.
I just want to cry and all, but can't find the right moment and place to do it.
I won't give up et, and try to push option C until the very last line of defense.
Please pray for me.

Just In Case

We never know what will happen, so I'll tell you this just in case.

Friends, you all mean something to me. And if I ever done something as stupid as hurting your feeling, and you can't seem to know why I did that, please tell me. Sometimes I'm ignorant of feelings too. And please forgive me if that happens.

Special friends, I wished we had been more than friends at times. But maybe It wasn't meant to be. Maybe I wasn't trying hard enough or I ended trying too hard at times.
Sorry if I hurt you. I regret it. I really do. But I never regret that I met you.

Best friends, I'm not the best type of friends, I'm ignorant at times, and worse, good chances I had ignored you for quite some time. Believe me, it's not that I don't like being with you, share stories, feelings or sorts. It's just that I like giving good news about me and everyone else. Maybe, in my opinion, nothing good that I can tell you or many less than good things happened that i was reluctant to share because it will cause some of you burdens or even worse, sadness, that made me rethink of getting in touch with you. It's not you that isn't strong enough to take it. It is I that is not strong enough to willing to make you sad. But believe me, when it comes to times, I'm more than willing to push you out of the road when a truck is riding at you at blinding speed. I'd take a bullet for you all.
Maybe I've proved it a little to you, maybe I haven't. But it's true.

Loved ones. as in families and other relatives. 1 note for you. 2 simple words. Stop fighting. Argue in healthy ways, don't bottle things up. It didn't work for me, it never works. Argue in healthy ways, not in hatred or vengeance or greed, but in love. Forgive, forget, and never turn to those problems again. Families are meant to love and care for each other. We are not neighboring nations claiming a small piece of land to be ours and not the others, we're family! By blood or by mutual trusts. Either way, we're family.

My Lord, I expect nothing more out of You. You've been a great Lord. I wished I was more of a servant, but after trying, I'm only me. Beg Your forgiveness for all the wrongdoings, and thanking You for all the impossible happiness and extension of life You've given me. I know I'll never reach this far without those credits.
For every living moments I thanked Thee, for every near death experiences I have been through alive, I worshiped Thee more, abd for my time of death, I'm leaning on my hope to Your will to save me.

Thank you. Sorry. And Good bye