Truth Telling

http://www.uphaa.com/blog/index.php/clean-jokes-2/

That's... entertaining in some sorts..

Hm, although I've had unwanted turn in my life recently, I can't stop thinking how lucky I am.

Feeling a bit lonely though coz not many of my friends react to this situation of mine. But I guess everybody has their own life.
Hm, things went for the worse last night.
I've had a fight with someone I care about.

I talked about making my own decisions and trying to put up my own schedule. I wanted to try to stand on my own feet, thank you for caring me, but would you mind a support and my apology?

That person talked about how childish I am and how rebellious I am compared to 10-12 years ago. Talking about how I disobeyed orders and didn't like to be told what to do anymore.

I wanted to scream this out loud but I can't seem to find it in my heart, let alone my voice, to hurt that person.

I am not who I was 12 years ago. I don't want to be independent to anyone anymore. I still like caring and love, but I'm done being yelled at for something that is not important.

You can yell at me when I'm making a bad decision e.g. planning to bungee jump from Kilimanjaro or sorts, but I don't need anyone yelling at me about hairstyles or shoes that I wear. I appreciate your opinion and concern, but this is my life. I will make my decisions based on your suggestions and mine.

Is it selfish trying to be independent and make your own call at things?
Is it immature trying to arrange your own life?
Is it wrong to tell the truth about things and discussing what's best to do about it?

I didn't find the answer that night. I was taught that if you have problems with someone, you should talk about it, don't keep it inside or you'd have cancer.
I didn't believe the cancer part, obviously. But I believe in talking things through. Staying silent won't solve anything.

I've had great results, no, satisfying results of this practice in my experience at work. A healthy discussion usually leads to a good solution. That's why I always open to discussions when I'm in charge of something and try to make an important decision.

But why that night it didn't work that way?
I ended up feeling worse with a painful solution up ahead.
I guess, some people doesn't get open discussions. They want absolute obedience of order. I guess, I have to accept the consequences of surfacing the truth.
Yes, telling the truth always lead to 1 of the 2 conclusions:
you help someone by hurting them or you hurt someone trying to help them. And often the case, those someone include the truth bearer.

Be careful. Jesus was penalised by the Jews in His time because He spoke the truth.
But, some truth has to be spoken no matter what.